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20/02/2018 - I dont know what to do about a boy's behaviour

20/02/18 - Female, 14 :

So there is a boy in my class and he hits me, kicks me, always has to have his hands on me. He got really close to me and then my ex and the boys best friends come up to me and says that he is trying to get with me so he can use me for sex. He has used 2 other girls. On a couple months ago he was using her for sex and one in January he was with her for her vape and phone. He's now telling me I go out with a year 6 and that im a wast of space. I just don't know what to do anymore

Ali says -

Thank you for getting in touch.† This boys behaviour both physically (hitting and kicking) and verbally (teasing, putting you down) is not acceptable.† Everyone has the right to feel safe and happy at school.† If you were an adult and this was happening in the work place it would be known as harassment.† You seem quite clear that his relationships with other girls have not been positive and I therefore assume you are not interested in him and want his behaviour to stop.

I would advise you talk to a trusted adult at school preferably a teacher that knows you both.† Even if you donít want a teacher to talk to him they could consider seating plans and monitoring his behaviour so that you do not have close contact with him.†

When you are a teenager itís really important to you how others view you, the comments they make and the way people behave towards you.† When someone treats you in this way it can be confusing and difficult to understand their behaviour.†

Remember his behaviour is not acceptable and you do not have to manage this situation on your own.† If you feel unable to speak to a teacher or parent you could tell a friend what is happening. Ask him or her to help you. It will be harder for him to pick on you if you have a friend with you for support. Try to ignore him or say 'No' really firmly, then turn and walk away. Remember, it's much harder for someone to affect you if you won't stand still and take it.† He also wonít appreciate the negative attention it gives him.† You could also keep a diary of what he does when and then share this with a teacher.

If you donít have anyone you can talk to you can talk to a Childline counsellor on 0800 11 11 or you can talk to a Childline counsellor on line or use the Cambridgeshire online counselling service Kooth.† Click here to find out more details about Childline or here to find out more details about Kooth.

Best wishes


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